What if I told you that you can lose your self-doubt?
Ever felt like all you've done, aimed, thought for, and worked for doesn't really matter?
What do you do when all you can think of is the uselessness of dreams, goals and even love?
What if life doesn't mean anything?
Today, you are going to discover the new truth about the beauty of life! You shall realize that every second means alot. Your decision matters alot, to shape the world around you, in the presence and even in a thousand years to come.
1. Learn to accept who you are
As easy to say as it seems, accepting every thing about the person you always see in the mirror needs a great effort. There's nothing desirable in a world filled with fantasies and differences than to accept who you are. It is after accepting the persoan that you are you can be able to discover the beauty side of you.
Just like social rejection, neglecting your tastes, needs and veiws is the greatest mistake you can ever make, in the path to failure. Because only if you "accept" can you be able to love; only if you love yourself, can the "universe" (people) love you.
Process: first off, count your blessings and name them one by one. Be thankful of your natural gifts and achievements. Reflect!
Write down your past achievements and goals, then make another list of the impact you've made and are capable of making; to yourself and to the world you live in. By doing this, You'll automatically begin to see the beauty of your life and how important you are to the world, just the way you are.
2. Realize your imperfection and let go. When you can't do something accurately, it simply means that you need to be more skilled. And this calls for self-developement and education. But if you've tried everything that people seem to do to make a perfection and still failed, just know that that thing is not for you and you are free to let go.
It doesn't matter if all your friends can do it. It doesn't matter if all your families have that feature. What matters now is you, letting go of your unfortunate imperfections and never to ask questions "why" but to start learning about yourself as an individual.
Explore your interests and pursue them without thinking about your background, friends or defeats.
3. Be honest with yourself.
Not every criticism is negative. We are made to learn from people and situations, things we need to make us better people. Not every critic is an enemy. When you did something, and situations or people respond negatively, look closely. Be a selfless judge. Learn about the fault and strive for perfection, focusing on how the "improvement" is going to make you a better person without being manipulated to other person's taste.
4. Solutions are only needed where problems are found.
Remember that you cannot fix it until you acknowledge and admit that there is a problem. Problems do not appear out of nowhere. It's either you have them or you don't. So the best way to live a pressure-free life is to admit your problems, and find the best way of fixing them. And if you're doubting everything; faith knows no such word as impossible, even as you must believe in something.
5. Recognize ineffective coping mechanisms.
Sex, drug abuse, alcoholism and cultism, are the worst coping mechanisms you can ever think of. You cannot deal with negativities using negativism. Deseases are not cured by infliction. Avoidance cannot work either. When everything you can think of is negative, distract it with an effective positive. And never settle for a coping skill for long. Explore new technique and seek for satisfaction.
6. Fearless Replacement.
The world is fast changing and life is only worth living when it follows the change. Replace your old person with a new one; character, behaviours, methods, responses and habits. Sometimes it takes time and determination to understand those things that need to be upgraded but believe me, the benefit is worth it.
7. Make the list.
After accepting who you are and making the necessary changes you need to make in your life, the next step is to make a list. Your past dreams and goals are of old. Write down the wishes of your new self, considering your faith and the effort needed to cross over to your dream land.
8. Do not alter everything at once.
Ever heard the song "one day at a time"? This is "one change at a time". You have a body, mind and spirit. Every change you make physically will affect everything about you. So take everything slowly and gradually, allowing every part of you do adopt to the changes. And whenever a part of you disapprove of a change, never hesitate to do something about it. Especially your conscious, never underestimate the plead of a troubled spirit.
9. Forsake do-overs
Never accept an unfavourable situation if you can avoid it, just because it has happen before. I believe that specific misfortunes are meant to happen only once, to teach us and build us. No same problem should come-over twice. And even when they seem so close, use the past experience to either "run" or fight it skillfully. But never ever let it happen twice in your life because of whatever reason.
10. Life is not just the way it is. Although you can improve yourself for the best, you can't change who you really are. Although you can make a difference in a community, state, country or even the world, you can never go beyond your vision. So stop thinking about an "unknown world". Just be the best you can be, doing the best you can where you are.
Every one has a purpose in life. You are here for a mission; to accomplish something; to explore anything to the utmost. Every pain upgrades you to become a worthy missionary. Find good friendship. I can even be a good friend to you.
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